There are days when the kids are just so cute/hilarious/awesome that I try to convince Josh that we should have at least a dozen more. Okay, that would be ridiculous, but how can we just stop at two when we make such cute babies? It would be a tragedy to stop now!
Girl hormones will tell you crazy things and make you completely forget all of the sleepless nights, the pain of childbirth, the fact that your body is totally different then pre-children. Admittedly we did go back and forth over having a third for a while… but ultimately have decided that two is a good number for a variety of reasons.
Let’s be honest, kids are expensive and having three kids in day care made us both cringe, and I don’t know that I’m the type to be a stay-at-home mom. Plus, we wouldn’t wait until Enzo was old enough to leave day care/pre-school because that would mean we’d be that much older and that would be a fairly big gap (to us) between Phoebe and a potential third baby.
We also thought about travel and the fact that right now while our cars don’t have a lot of space, at least we aren’t being forced to buy a bigger vehicle. One day we will because we have lots of plans to go on road trips, and it would be nice to have extra seating, but for now I really like my car and would like to keep it for a while longer.
Ultimately, we looked at our ages, and while we aren’t old by any means, Josh will be 50 and I’ll be almost there when Enzo graduates from high school. We have plans to have a life once the kids graduate and go out on their own, and we want to still feel fairly young when that time comes.
Sure there are days when a little part of me taps on my shoulder and tries to convince me that we shouldn’t stop, that I’m not ready to stop, but this was always our dream… since before we were married. We talked about having a boy and then a girl, and that’s exactly how it worked out, so I’d say our family is complete. As Phoebe gets older and more independent, I treasure these lingering days where I still get to feed her a bottle and snuggle her before bed, but definitely get excited as she gets closer to being done with bottles entirely.
While I wanted to keep them babies for as long as possible, now I love watching these new toddler milestones happen as Enzo gets older. He has such a great imagination already and he also knows exactly how to break me – I can only resist the dimples and whispered “Please” so many times before I cave. Yep, I’m ready to be the mama of a toddler and a preschooler – I’ll leave the babies to someone else.
you’ll still have the cuddles, it will just be a little different 🙂
I love this post and hearing about your reasoning behind having two kids – love it. Right now I think I want three, but I don’t even have one…so I should probably wait until then to make any real decisions. 😛
Ha ha, it’s hard not to do a little planning and dreaming… and also really hard to know what you want until you start, so you might as well dream now and then decide later. 😉